FACT 1- The better your brain is at identifying positives, the greater your chance at success.
Input comes to us in 11 million pieces of stimulus every day. Our brain doesn’t just see things like a still photo from a camera. It is tasked with interpreting and processing all that input. Our brain has to decide what focus on. Thus your reality is a choice. Most of us are excellent at finding the negative things. We edit work looking for mistakes. At school, the answers that were marked with a big red X were the wrong answers. Over time our brain gets really good at seeing the negative.
The better your brain is at using its energy to focus on the positive, the greater your chance at success. But this doesn’t mean you only have happy thoughts and experiences at work. It means you can choose to interpret most input as positive.
FACT 2- This optimism must be rational.
What this means is no matter how much cold calling and following up and meeting and greeting and networking if you do, if you don’t have a great product, it won’t be effective. When you have a great product or service being happy and optimistic is the fast track to success.
I am sure you have heard the stories of Michael Jordan not making his high school basketball team and of Thomas Edison having 10,000 unsuccessful attempts before inventing the lightbulb. The attitude here is the key. It wasn’t a failure – it was one step closer to success.
This is not the same as ignoring your weaknesses or chanting affirmations, it is a mindset that says “ I may not currently have that skill but I can change through experience and application”.
In Maya Angelou’s words” You may encounter many defeats but you must not be defeated.”
FACT 3- It is often the perception of stress and not the actual stress that derails you.
You know it’s a vicious circle when you have so much stress that you are stressed about being stressed. The definition we use at the Chopra center for stress is what happens to you when something comes between you and something you want. The average person encounters a minimum of 8 sources of stress in a day. So how do we stop being stressed?
SHORTCUTS TO HAPPINESS
Make these quick, stress releasing, happiness increasing habits part of your day and you will begin to reset your basline of happiness and I guarantee you will feel great!
Gratitude is the attitude. Taking time to count your blessings and to see the glass as half full really highlights all the things you already have to be happy about. And what you focus on gets bigger so why not carve out a few minutes each day to be grateful. A daily joy journal where you can list all the good things that happened is a fabulous way to wrap up each day.
Be present. The future is uncertain and we cannot change the past. Living in the present is our only opportunity to create the life we want. Why waste any of that precious time on worry or regret. Worry is like paying the interest on a loan before you’ve been approved. Enjoy every moment of every day to its fullest.
Spend time in nature. Sit on the beach. Walk in the forest. Get out on the rooftop and watch the stars. Find the awe-inspiring beauty of our world. We are all interconnected with our environment. Find new ways to enjoy yours.
Spend time with happy people. The attitude is contagious. Find friends who inspire you. Leave behind the complainers and the gossips. Spending time with friends who share your attitude, lifestyle, and sense of purpose is invigorating. It feels way better to be part of an energetic tribe who have big dreams and adventurous attitudes.
Be Part of Something Bigger. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Collect money for a charity. Sponsor a foster child. March for a cause. No matter where you live or what your circumstances, there will always be someone needing your help. Feeling connected feels good!
Meditate During meditation, the brain produces dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin & endorphins to counteract stress. All these are naturally released by our bodies and contribute to the physiology of happiness. So many people are choosing medication when we can choose meditation. And the side effects of meditating are all positive, like increased immunity and lower blood pressure.
Fake It Until You Make It. Studies published in the Psychological Science journal have shown that people who concentrate on having a smile on their face actually become happier. So when life has you feeling stressed or flustered, even the most forced of smiles can genuinely decrease your stress and make you happier.