The curious paradox about personal growth is that until we can accept ourselves as we are, flaws and all, we are unable to change and grow. Many of us are incredibly compassionate and empathetic to others but we don't extend that compassion to ourselves. If you are your own worst critic, here are some tips to boost you self-compassion.
What exactly IS self-compassion?
Why cultivate self-compassion?
Self- compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, respect, caring, concern & forgiveness that you would others.
Self-compassionate people are less stressed, more socially connected, happier, less anxious and more resilient.
3 Components of Self-Compassion
- Self-kindness v.s. Self-Judgement
- Common Humanity
- Mindfulness
What Messes with our Attempts at Self-Compassion
- self-compassion is often confused with self-pity
- constructive criticism is sometimes interpreted as hurtful
- the feeling that self-compassion is indulgent
- thinking that self-compassionate behavior is making excuses
- the belief that the stick is more effective than the carrot
Most unhappy people need to learn just one lesson: how to see themselves through the lens of genuine compassion and treat themselves accordingly.~ Martha Beck
Quick Self-Compassion Boosts
- smile at yourself in the mirror
- accept compliments from others
- enjoy approval when you get it
- be gentle with yourself when you make mistakes
- love your quirks- they are what makes you great
- speak your truth
- stop pleasing people
- adopt a facial resting posture that makes you look the way you'd like to be seen
